A Parable

Soreman and Worthy, two friends, were headed to a daily haunt. As they approached the location, Soreman's expression darkened. As to the reason, Worthy inquired. "They've taken my place." was Soreman's response in reference to his daily resting location. Trying to not taking too much offense to the offenders, Soreman sought out a place not too far from the original. He placed his heavy load down and momentarily stepped away to do some work that demanded his attention for a few minutes. Upon returning, he found that his place of relocation had also been taken over by newcomers. Angered by the inconsideration of both parties, he resolved to stand defiantly. Worthy, having parted ways and now, returning to the situation again inquired about the discouraged appearance of his friend. "They've taken my place, and  I want them flogged."
Knowing his friend was deeply hurt and angered, Worthy simply encouraged Soreman to be gracious to those offenders. "You are more gracious than I am," Soreman replied, "But, I'm not beating them as I wish to do."

Here's the application:
Is the fact that we don't respond in the way we feel is justifiable actually Grace? Or is it mercy?
Is it more like mercy to withhold our true feelings? If so, what is grace?
Grace is not withholding, but giving what is foolish to our "justified" state of desires.
Giving up of yourself and giving true love.